I can actually name a few people who I have learned this lesson from but my good friend Richard and my Dad probably do it best. Richard is all in or all out. He will not be a part of something just to do it. If he decides he is in he jumps in, otherwise he will not give it a second thought.
I have learned a lot of this from my Dad as well. I have heard him so many times, if you specialize in everything you specialize in nothing. You cannot be all things to all people. This has been a very valuable lesson over the years. I just can’t do everything, so I pick and choose the things I want to do and try to do them with a red-hot intensity. If I am going to do it, I am going to be all in.
This does create some problems that you have to be willing to take on. First, when you get started you will have to start to prioritize and cut things loose. You will have to choose what those things are. Second, you have to be able to say no. If you struggle with saying no, you will struggle living a life of intensity. Finally, you have to accept that not everyone will like it. Can you live with that?
There are very few things in life that I am really good at, but the things I am good at I try to become the expert on. Every decision you make in the future will have to go through a filter. To live with Intensity means you have to pick and choose. I am thankful to have watched leaders like Richard and my Dad over the years dive into the things they love. It has taught me many great lessons about making choices.
Don’t step into the world of Intensity lightly. You have to be all in.